After seeing many relationships torn apart, I have to say I feel blessed. However, realistically, things can change within a blink of an eye. A recap, I just celebrated seventeen years of marriage.
Yes, even your happy marriage can turn around quicker than milk spilled at the supper table.
So reason #2 of why I am married for over 10 years focuses on reality.
I accept the fact that every passing day, we are growing and changing individually.
I accept the fact that one day we may look at one another and say “Who are you?”
I accept the fact that one day we may be attracted to a person, with a different personality, that suits our changing needs and desires.
However, I hope that I will never see the day. I realize though, that it may be me living that change, or him. It can happen to either of us.
Being realistic makes me work harder and talk more to my spouse. Being realistic allows me the ability to encourage him to take chances and make mistakes. Being realistic gives me the strength to not say “I told you so.” when if he fails. Being realistic, keeps my marriage alive.
However, going back to the beginning, being realistic I know that in a week, a month, or a year, things may change again. Accepting this fact of reality encourages me to take my marriage up a notch each and every day. Marriage is a verb and I enjoy it day by day rather than fretting over the “what ifs” of the future.